This deliciousness is all mine,
Yep
I got lucky
But then again so did he.
Hubby loves to surf, it is his place of peace. His happy place. and the surf around us at the moment is EPIC apparently. So the boards have been in use, on boxing day hubby got up at 2am so he could be in Noosa by dawn. he surfed those waves long and hard along with 200 other addictees just like him.
yesterday hubby proposed another dawny surf. But I love the way he puts it.
"Ill be back by 9 and all you have to do is pop on a DVD for the kids."
yeah right! Cause parenting is THAT easy.
The empty bed reminded me of the dawny...
One lone board propped up in the corner mocked me (does anyone else share a bedroom with their hubbys boards?)
Boyboy had created a pootastrophy... it was everywhere. Hubbys surfing waves, I'm changing sheets and cleaning poo. HMMM
By 5.40am I had done a load of washing, broken up two fights, made breakfast and washed all my windows.
So I might be exaggerating on the window front but you get the picture.
The balance is kinda out of whack right now. But then again hubby is on holiday after a LONG year of working very hard to put food on the table. and I do appreciate it I really do.
But I wonder when my time will come? My 'dawny surf' equates to a good book, a beach and sleep ins.
I have heard it said a thousand times, you are no good to your children if you don't take care of yourself. But really that is easier said than done. I try to take time for me, have my sleep ins, go for a run/walk, however, most of the time I put it off for the families sake. A child is screaming when I'm trying to sleep in. A family outing awaits when I want to walk for an hour, and when I do get time to myself I feel a little alone to be honest. and I don't quite know what to do.
Family has kinda become my life.
I don't really have an answer to my dilemma, I know I need to take time for me, to get myself a 'hobby' as hubby so rightfully puts it. but I am torn. I think most women feel the same, our children come first, then everything else, then us last. And really is that a bad thing??? This season is so short and before we know it our little everything's have grown up and are living in the big city about to turn 21. GASP.
Is it that we are created this way? To care for and nurture our babies. To find joy and laughter in their joy, their laughter. To give to them until we are empty, only to refill and do it all again the next day. Or do we, do I need to find balance? Do I need to take time for myself, even when the kids are screaming? Do I just need to put on my runners and walk out the door for an hour?
Anyone found an answer to this? How do you take care of yourself? revitalise?
I would love to know.
WEZA
Feeling for you Weza! Having come from a surfing family myself, and being a mum, it's a tough one!! I think compromise is a big part of marriage and putting family first... you can have a day surfing if I can "....". You do need to make time for yourself, and knowing that you have a treat coming up (i.e girls night out) makes the time alone more bearable. Tonnes of hugs!!
ReplyDeleteHmmm I know a little bit of what you're feeling... my hubby went 'fishing' with one of his bffs yesterday supposedly for an hour or two but came back five hours later. He's always telling me that I should take time for me but when I do, the first thing he tells me (before he even says hello) is usually how ghastly it was without me there and what disasters happened, making me feel horribly guilty for even going out at all. Not to moan or anything!! Totally identify with you about when you want time for yourself, there's always a good reason why it doesn't happen or why it has to be put off... One nice thing is that from time to time hubby takes the kids out to the park for a couple of hours leaving me at home... in peace and quiet with a good book.
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i've found that with certain seasons there's less time for me and during others there's more. during the seasons where there isn't much "me time" sometimes i just have to grab my keys and say, " i'll be back in an hour"...or tell the hubby i am making plans for such and such. and then during the seasons where i'm not so desperately needed at every moment, i can plan trips or date nights or whatever to feel like a wife/friend again. but you're right...those little faces will always be in the back of our minds no matter where we go or what we're doing and something in us just longs to be back at home snuggling them when we get the chance to be alone.
ReplyDeletehmm interesting thoughts. With a baby it seems like you are never alone for you time.
ReplyDeleteWould evenings out to pursue a hobby or night out with the girls be a better time for you?
You just have to bite the bullet and schedule time out without feeling guilty...otherwise resentment builds instead.
I take time out with you! That's how I revitalise and refresh, oh and running, gotta get some exercise in, but I do know how you feel, here for you any time you want to escape xx
ReplyDeleteI find really enjoying everyday things refreshing.Think about and enjoy your morning coffee, savour the flavour, when doing the housework I think about how much more organised I will be because of it etc. My morning shower has even become a special time as afterwards I get to put on some nice facecream and perfume. I dont get time away from my kids but I find these simple everyday rituals are my 'me time'.
ReplyDeleteHmmm yes hearing ya! We have night a week each that is our 'sanity night' seems to be working well
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